1. Why do you feel asexuality awareness is important?
Asexuality and other asepc identities are excluded from conversations both in straight communities and queer communities alike. It’s important to make people recognize who we are, why we belong in queer spaces, and why we deserve a seat at the table. Plus, it’s good to learn that not everyone experiences attraction the same way. When straight people learn about homosexuality, for example, they probably understand the concept, regardless of whether they view it positively or not. They can understand that gay folks are just like them, it’s just that they feel attraction to people of the same gender as them instead of a different one. When people learn about asexuality, it often forces them to rethink and reconceptualize their whole understanding of attraction altogether. As such, being exposed to asexuality will only help people think about themselves, others, and their relationships in a more open and ultimately healthier way.
2. What could be done to improve ace awareness in the media?
Short term goal: Acknowledge that asexuality exists. So few people even know what asexuality is, and the only way to improve awareness in the media is to let aspec identities be seen and heard. Write stories about asexuality, invite asexual activists to events, put asexual characters (as well as characters with other aspec identities!) in TV shows, movies, books, etc. And — perhaps most importantly — stop using asexuality as nothing more than the butt of a joke. Long term goal: Allow aspec folks to be the media creators themselves. Let us have a seat at the table and lift up those of us who are already doing the work out in the world — hire asexual writers, journalists, actors, etc. If the media is created by us, it will be much more representative, nuanced, and accurate.
3. When did you first discover the term asexuality?
Sarah: Some time in high school, so maybe 6 or 7 years ago. But I didn’t really have a full grasp on the intricacies of it until I started questioning my own sexuality my freshman year of college. Kayla: I probably heard the term asexuality for the first time in high school when I was usingTumblr more, but I didn’t really understand it or other aspec identities like demisexuality until after Sarah came out in college.